Secret of Happening a Perfect Motivation

A few days back had a chance to attend one of the most exciting sessions in our work premise. The session was more focussed on “Managing Growth and Family conflicts in Business” by Prof. Samish Dalal.

 

 In the session, interesting and motivating insights about life were shared with prime centered around the second generation of entrepreneurs ward who were willingly working quite hard to come out of their cocoons, having an itch in mind for a stand, craving to make their mark in the business after the great successes of just before generation or sometimes riving from the setback of failures.

 

Motivation either by self or by others is “the key”, for stand and enhance what we can perform. Motivation is a factor, valued either positive or negative, which depends upon the difference between what can be done by an ability to benchmark that currently achieved.

 

This margin can be defined as positive or negative by deviation set of benchmark limit, either achieved the goal then positive or missed the target by long shot then negative. The perspective of evaluating the outcomes with desired effects in the achievement process is all about we term as Motivation.

 

One of his thought that crossed my mind and forced to dig deeper in thought process was, to identify audiences we came across in your life, broadly into three different categories:

v  One who supports and shares thoughts without hesitation, without fear or benefits but they clearly say yes or no to the idea you put in front of them.

v  Persons who always want to share negatives in what you do.

v  Persons who backstab whenever they get a chance, they are the motivators with a negative value or “DEMOTIVATORS”.

 

The third category is the worst and we should try to avoid such persons in our life.

 

First and the second are those categories that can help us enhance our productivity and make a positive impact on work action because either they will support or try to prove us wrong, enabling our guts to justify the correction helping us to put more effort into a positive direction.

 

The session prime focus was on the key fact of identifying one such person in life, in every single stage because he or she can uplift the moral you need, to boost the intellectual you aimed to gain, resulting in the success that you deserve.

 

When the above discussion was exchanging, suddenly a line from the recent famous web series “Sacred Games season 1” click in my mind: “Mere Jeevan mein Samay Samay pe teen Baap huye”, means he was supported motivated and guided by the inspiration of three men in his life in different phases of his struggling era.

 

With such useful insights, I sunk deeper and deeper into my subconscious searching for the answers that "why people desire to search for a Guru?", maybe they are unknowingly searching for one anchor point to put their efforts and faith unidirectional. Guru can be anyone but guru cannot be, the only person who taught or deliver a piece of advice, but the one who creates comfort zone around distress zone around and one can feel unrestricted to share everything. 

 

As Psychology says “if you trust then only you thrust”.

(But wisely impart such great faith in others.)

 

Everybody who has identified that key person with whom he or she is comfortable to share and be like: 

“agar isko bata dala to ye kuch na kuch batayega"

,nikal lega ye,

kuch na kuch juggad fit kar hi lega”.

 

When we get peace, out of something that soothes the mindset with refreshing ideas, that originate or emerges from stressful conditions, not because of the situation but some persons are there to calm your nerves, help you see more clearly in the haze of unknown variables, providing you an uppercut to get the situation under control or in the pace you love. Avoid those thoughts that may sink you in disbelieves and negative.

 

In the present, I am also seeking my Krishna to hold my ropes and guide my chariot in this world of Mahabharat.

Green Dot- Short Story of OnLine

“A heart never wants to hurt, especially to others, he cares about.”

 Part 1

In the past, I had shared many views about living fantasies, broken love angels, ups and downs of life for my blogs and few internet publications, and because of that, I too had to face frequent questions, fired out from my friends and strangers via email, phone, and messages towards me about articles authenticity and connection to my life. Most of them I politely turn down because every time it is uncanny. Just because I wrote them all, that does not imply a connection between me and the situations I explained in articles.

But there might be a story, I want to share with you and hope many among us will correlate themselves with it and if not, then again as stated to the free will of mine, I had witnessed it not experienced it fully.

I started a new job about a year ago, and in-process had to relocate our city. My friends were left behind and the only way to communicate with them was an online medium. Due to work obligations, we have to put our call minimized during work hours and due to continuous to & fro involved in between job centers, was killing the personal time of life algorithm. My habit of staying awake at nights made me wonder and rambler about social media, publications, and my time in analyzing.

One day while rambling on a social media platform I started a chat with an online girl over one of my blogs on which she posted a comment, and then she disappeared afterward. But before that vanishing act, she tried to restore my memories of the past, when we had a face-to-face conversation in a context related to workplace seminar. But I could not figure out her face, I tried to recall hard, but apart from her pretense nothing I could sketch in my mind. That day I felt nothing that can be worth expressing, until now.

Suddenly, I began to be online, on the same social platform where we had our last little but brief introduction for the first time, but now I didn’t see her online. I was disappointed for the reason unknown to me, especially for a stranger I was talking just a second time in my whole life.

I waited for her to be online at the very moment, every single day for a month. My impatience grew and hope died. Negative thoughts were floating across the mind just because of the icing silence of the glacier.

Now days started to roll out with occasional exchanges of online "hi" and "byes" with smiles expressed by emoji and then silence followed afterward.

I was so attached to her online presence around my articles online that I started to share every single moment of my life on the online social platforms in the form of “stories”, post.

Her presence and engagement around my post in the form of likes, share or even the seen symbol was more than enough for me at any time of day.

However, at this age when the social pressure is high with prestige and egos that can easily be hurt are staking high even though my feelings grew stronger and stronger for her.

Mostly I found her offline, at that very moment many thoughts sail in my mind that were strange like hell and “why do I care about some stranger so much?”. And some days with little chit chats make me happy, a useless and good-for-nothing feeling, but when she freezes the chats all of the sudden dizziness occur.

One day when I was having a delighted chat time with her in my free time one of my seniors caught me into the action of the exchange of chats.

 

“What are you thinking and smiling about? Come on, tell me with whom these chats are? Ah, is it someone special you are chatting or special to chat is going on?

Nothing, sir, just a routine follow-up with members.

No members are so funny to smile on chats and that too on routine follow-ups, just admit.

Nothing serious, sir, just usual.

You smile while following up with members.

 

He tried to provoke me more and more and smiled to learn about the chats that I politely passed on.

Whenever I try to start a new conversation, I would end up with closed roads with no words of expression, also there was a feeling to hide some of my feelings in the assumption of what she might think. Am I trespassing limits? Is it ok or I look desperate? Maybe she thinks I am a jerk or nice? Many such thoughts always jam my feeling to express before her, even in chats.

I didn’t want my only happiness came crashing down or ionized nor disturbing her dreams, emotions thought expression toward me. So never intended to shatter the silence first or stretch chats long.